Wednesday, February 24, 2016

10 things no one tells you about before having kids

In typical " Know everything about raising kids even though I don't have any" fashion, I thought being a parent was easy and not really a big deal. It was just what people did. I would say things like "If that were my kid...", or "I would NEVER do that with my kid". And then I became a parent. 
 
Becoming a parent has taught me a few things so far, and I am sure I will keep learning as they get older, but the biggest one is how much love and worry you can have all at the same time. I am not really sure how people live to be old if they have had kids. My heart feels like it may burst right out of my chest every single day!
 
 
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Here are some other things I have learned...
 
1) Being pregnant is not all it's cracked up to be for some people.
 
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  Every one of my pregnancies were hard on me. Physically and emotionally. I really wish I could have enjoyed it more.
 
 
 
2) Moments like these are NOT easy!
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Seeing your baby hooked up to tubes or not feeling well is so hard. Sometimes they take it better then you do.
 
 
 
3) Teaching them to work hard and try harder are good things you should do.
And will pay off in the long run 
 
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Our oldest two work really hard to be good at the things they can do. We don't expect them to be the same but we do expect them to be the best that THEY can be! And our youngest is well on her way toward that goal too.
4) They will get messy
 
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5) They will want to try new things
 
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And give you a few heart attacks every day. Sometimes it is better to just look away and deal with whatever happens next. Hopefully they will either learn to do it better so they don't get hurt, OR learn to not do it again! Encouraging independence requires a strong mind and heart. There will be lots of yelling...at you...by your child...because they have an opinion but don't really know what that opinion is. 

 
6) The bond between siblings is wonderful and will melt your heart.
 
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If these pictures don't show love then I don't know what does! I think they all are truly obsessed with each other. I don't know if every family is like this but I hope they are. Seeing the way they love each other makes being pregnant with them all worth it.
 
 
7) Do things as a couple...without the kids.
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This is so important! You are what your kids lean on for everything. You are their rock and their stability. If you are not strong together then your kids will fall apart with you. Plus, it is good to remember what it was like before kids. Something attracted you to each other and you need to remind yourselves what that was. I also like the adult conversations. He doesn't yell at me when I don't let him carry a butter knife around the house and I don't have to remind him to not run with a "grugar". That's screwdriver, for those of you that don't speak fluent toddler.
8) Each child will test you in one way or another
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Each one of our kids is different and each one has tested our strength in their own way. Our oldest is disabled, has a lot of chronic illnesses, but smiles all the time and has the most laid back personality you will ever see. Our middle is our strong independent one. I have often said "I am not ready for this". Crawling, walking, climbing, being sassy... I am still not ready for this. Our youngest cried a lot as a newborn. It has taken almost 6 months for her to smile and do something other than cry and sleep.
 
 
9) Forgive each other.

One of the things we are constantly dealing with are seizures. Our oldest son has them from time to time and every time he has one our life gets turned upside down. We realize that our time is limited and we try to enjoy every moment.
 
 
10) All our pieces may be different, but they fit together perfectly!
 
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Thursday, February 18, 2016

I dream of a day when ALL children can talk!

I wonder...
 
What is he thinking?
 
What would he say, if he could talk? 
 
Will I ever hear more than just sounds or laughter?
 
Will I ever hear a word?...a sentence?


 When he laughs, is he remembering something fun we did that day? Or are his angels talking to him?
 
When he stares off into space, is he deep in thought about how to solve the worlds' problems? Or is he just wishing he had a different toy to play with?

Does he even know that the world has problems? Or is our family his world?

Does he understand EVERYTHING that we say? Or just smile when we tell him "I love you" because that is how he says "I love you too"?

Does he have a favorite color? Does he get scared when he can't see us? Do he get irritated by the rest of us? What does he think about the life that we have built for him? Is he thankful?

Does he wish that he had more control of his own body? Does he dream of running?

When I look at him I think my heart might just burst from all of the love that I have for him! Does he feel that way too, when he looks at me?

He may never tell me any of these things, and I am OK with that. But sometimes, I just wonder...

 
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Monday, February 1, 2016

#Projectthankful is on a roll! How are you doing?

Well we are 1 month into finding one thing to be thankful for every day! How is it going? I have posted either in the Facebook group, on my personal page, or on Instagram. I missed a few days but it didn't mean that I wasn't thankful, I just was busy and didn't go online. 

Today I am thankful for...


My oldest child! He will always be my baby, he saved my life, he is always teaching me something, and he ALWAYS makes me smile!  

What are you thankful for? Join project thankful and tell us. 😆



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